You always think that adults are adults, and we all put labels on dramatic events calling them "SO HIGH SCHOOL". But the irony I am beginning to become aware of.. is really, nothing is "so high school"... its human nature and it follows us thru life, unless we so choose to cut it out, and take the bigger better path.
This train of thought has just been on my mind recently as I have been opening my eyes to relationships and making a conservative effort to keep my life "clean". Clean meaning.. as awful as it sounds.. making certain people priorities, and focusing on them.. and not putting wasted energy in places I simply shouldn't be. I think the blatant reality is that life is complicated and tricky, and we only need those people who we adore and admire around us, rather then those we are willing to pick apart and talk down upon....
My new thing became, If I can talk sh*t on them to others, then why do I want to have them in my life, and why would someone want me in theirs if I feel that way about them? It's not fair to either party... really. SO... I slowly but surely naturally weeded those people who I wasn't always excited about or that I thought poorly of out. I ADVISE YOU TO IT TO...FIRST STEP... GET OFF OF FACEBOOK FOR AWHILE. there is no need. YOU TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS IN OTHER WAYS.. healthier ways.
My friend was sharing something with me the other night about a falling out she is having with a friend.. and really there is no pinpointed reason for it, and I said to her "will this ever stop, aren't we too old for these sorts of things, aren't are friends our friends now, no more drama or ending of relationships?"...
and she made a very good poignant point.. that NOPE.. it never ends. Sad as that is, she makes a valid point.. lucky for me 98% of my dearest friends have been for years upon years.. and most likely will always remain that way... but on the other hand, thats a testament to the difficulty it takes to grow up and move to a new city, get married, make new friends.. we get set in our ways, and unwilling to reach out to the stranger on the elliptical next you, or the girl in the cute outfit ordering her coffee in-front of you,
so no matter how much older I get, I want to remember to always make the effort to keep making friends.. but know yourself, well enough to know who you want or need in your life, and like Jill Zarin says in her book.. and such an important memo for me to remind myself of.. IS...
YOU ALWAYS WANT TO BE HAPPY FOR YOUR FRIENDS ACCOMPLISHMENTS, GENUINELY HAPPY, and if you can't be.. then it's not a good relationship, and if your friend cannot be happy for you and your accolades, then SHALOM to them...
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